|A Shift To "Good Divorces"
During the last decade some attention has shifted from the adversarial divorce to the notion of a "good divorce." This notion of a "good divorce" offers divorcing parents a new model that may facilitate the transition from a married couple to a divorced collaborative co-parenting team. In a good divorce, parents jointly set goals for their children and collaborate on ways to achieve these goals.
In The Name Of The Children
We always tell our clients that divorce may end a marriage, but the co-parental relationship is a lifelong bond that will continue through life cycle events such as graduations, religious ceremonies, birthdays, weddings, and future grandchildren. This bond of kinship is predicated on the belief that children want to maintain equal relationships with both parents. In order to maximize the opportunity to maintain these bonds, parents need to create unique ways to diffuse their marital issues and work to preserve the integrity of their parental relationships. Many families need some help in navigating the transition from marriage to divorce. This is particularly important as couples journey through the divorce litigation process and tend to lose sight of the bond of kinship that will endure long after the final divorce adjudication. It is during the litigation process that children are at greatest risk of becoming embroiled in parental conflict and placed in loyalty binds.
How Our Collaborative Divorce Consulting Service Works
For the past five years divorce attorneys have referred us clients who were unable to separate their marital issues from their parenting responsibilities. We worked closely with these couples throughout the litigation process and helped them understand the meaning of "best interest of the child" and the importance of collaborative co-parenting. In addition, we mediated many child-related disputes and shared parenting issues, offered parents conflict management strategies, and helped divorcing couples set well-delineated boundaries to minimize future parental conflict.
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